I had a conversation last night with a blogger that I respect tremendously. He's a character is Sir Scratchalot, with a sense of humor and a vein of creativity unequalled by many other bloggers. He has adopted an attitude of not caring what other people are doing on their blogs, nor does he care who the new characters are. At first I was puzzled by his attitude, but after having time to think things through I have begun to see something.
When we're blogging, we're online and the internet is no place to be giving out too much personal information. In order to avoid that we have to create an identity, a character if you will. I truly enjoy those with a sense of humor, and even though I know the real person behind that character may be far different, it doesn't bother me. So, why does it bother me when the real person behind a character creates a dramatic tragic identity?
I've written the truth about me as much as possible and probably given out more information than I should have. This is MY way of doing things, and I need to stop expecting others to do the same. Is there any way to create a fictional character honestly? Probably not, and why should I object to the fiction they're writing about or the people that support them?
I read something and mentally point a finger and think to myself that I'm reading a pack of lies. That shouldn't matter. There's no regulation in blogging that says you can't create fiction, quite the opposite really. Blogging is an opinion based forum, it is the opinion of the character/author that I'm reading. If the character is a work of fiction than the opinion isn't worth a second notice by me. That's my choice.
From now on if I see trouble brewing, I'm moving on and leaving the trouble right where it is. I might come over here and blog it out, make fun of it, or do anything I find necessary to get out what I'm feeling so that I really can let go of it. The other thing I'm going to do is stop questioning the new blogs when they occur. Maybe they are nothing more than another ID of someone I don't like or have had problems with, and as long as that particular ID doesn't cause any grief...then I'm fine with it. It's ALL smoke and mirrors anyways.
I have my preferences, and those are the folks I plan on staying blogbuddies with. I don't need any more, but I can at least nod to the rest of the community in passing. There's no regulation that states I have to comment on every blog I read. Nor do I have to be buddies with every blogger I comment to.