Saturday, June 28, 2008
Friday, June 27, 2008
We have a private case, a woman with dementia and a family that is so far in to denial that they keep violating her safety. Her doctor wants 24 hour care for her, has flat said that she can't be left alone...in writing...but the family will only pay for 12 hours of care daily. She is then diapered, placed into bed, and left there for the remaining 12 hours every day.
She is so far into her dementia that she bites and claws at anyone trying to help her. One of the girls was bitten on the abdomen through a sweat shirt hard enough to draw blood. We are weekly having to call 911 to help pick her up because she's slid to the floor during the struggle to transfer her, and when we inform the family, they seem to think that there's something wrong with her legs and we should walk her more often. She doesn't remember HOW to walk part of the time.
One son went so far as to tell us that she can't pay for 24 hour care, or for two people to do a transfer because there wouldn't be enough money left for them to inherit. Then he took her to a bone specialist who did nothing but decide she was in pain and he put her on hydrocodone. Her brain doesn't function enough under normal circumstances let alone while being drugged.
The idiot son who lives in the area took her to New Jersey for Memorial weekend against the advice of her doctor. She was sick. She became sicker, and instead of taking her to an emergency room in New Jersey, he brought her back here that Sunday. Drove with her unresponsive for 5 hours. She was so out of it that they thought she was dying when they got her to the ER here. They couldn't get a vein to give her fluids without a resection. The reason for the drive? HE had a fishing date on Monday and he didn't want to miss it. There is no consideration at all for her safety. It's so shocking to me.
The latest thing is that the daughter is here and she decided Mom needed a trip to the beauty parlor. They arranged at first to have the aide go too for transfering her. Last night the idiot son calls me to tell me the aide won't be necessary because the salon will have someone help. They never told the salon that she doesn't use her legs at all. So when they got there they couldn't get her out of the car. Idiot calls the office demanding to know why no aide went with her, when told that he made the change with me last night, he denied it. My only saving grace is that he also said he spoke to the office nurse this morning and she said she'd go help with the transfer. NO! She didn't say any such thing. They will not accept that she's mentally incompetent and that it affects everything.
The plan now is to take her to New Jersey again for the Fourth of July. After today that may have changed, but I doubt it. Their total denial as to her condition makes both the client and the aides unsafe. She's placed in bed for 12 hours, nobody there to reposition her, and she can't roll over herself. Her skin is breaking down, she's a diabetic so this is really dangerous. THEY DON'T LISTEN or they just don't care. She belongs in a nursing home, but that would mean nothing left for them to inherit and apparently that's ALL they care about.
Thursday, June 26, 2008
So, today I had to go provide care for my client. When I arrive I always take a parking spot in her driveway that is farthest from her door. The driveway is wide enough for two cars, so, why is it that any one else coming there has to park directly behind me? She even asks them not to block me in and still, they park right behind me. The only exception is David, her Meals on Wheels delivery guy. He even comments that I park out of the way and it makes life so much easier for him. Pull up to the door, zip in zip out.
Today her daughter comes while I'm there, and shows no sign of thinking about moving her vehicle so I can back out. She's blathering away on the phone while I'm trying to get her attention to ask her if she'd be so kind as to move her vehicle. It took ten minutes of her holding up her hand for me to wait a minute before her Mom yelled at her to go move it so I could leave. She got told that she was raised better than this. Given what I've seen, I believe it, however, since out of Mom's house she seems to have acquired some less than desirable habits.
I could tell by the way my client was fuming that her daughter was going to be treated to an earful after I left. I had my purse and keys in hand, I'd say I wanted to leave, and she was just ignoring me. She tends to be a little self centered I guess. These days...who isn't? If you park so you're blocking someone else in, don't you pay attention to when they want to leave? How hard is that?
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Despite the problems I encounter here with image upload and paragraphs, I really like this place. I wouldn't want to give up my BS blog entirely because I do like the sense of community that you don't get here. Have you tried to read posts by using the Next Post feature? Might be nice if I could find more than one written in English out of the 30 or so I've looked at that way. I did find one that I left a comment on but people here don't answer comments. That could be a good thing.
Some bloggers want the social aspect of blogging. Staying in touch through comments. Making blog friends, meeting people, that kind of thing. Some people want to write and be left alone. I'm finding that I'm both kinds of people at different times. Never knew that about myself.
I no longer really wish to meet people. Especially after what I've seen happen. I have learned that too many bloggers aren't like their blogs. If it's the blog that draws you to them, why would you want to meet them and have your illusions destroyed? Of course, if someone were in my area and wanted to have lunch or something there's no harm in that, but not with a view to establishing life long friendship.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
The television news programs are all giving tips on how to stay healthy during this heat spell. Mostly they're saying to stay out of the sun as much as possible. Do your exercising early in the morning. Stay hydrated and if you do have to be outside in the sun, wear a hat.
Froggin image editor won't let me upload my hat! I had to use the html feature instead of the image editor in the Create post feature. I'm getting frogged off over here.
Sunday, June 8, 2008
I think I better find some frog graphics. LOL
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
I posted this for the first time in June of 2008. It is being reposted (I hope) because Fuzzinator did it again. I'm not sure how he got out of the house this time, it being still cold and we are not yet leaving windows open for air. However, when I went to leave for work this morning, there sat Fuzz on my deck.
I wasn't sure it was him at first, but when I came out he spoke to me and started to walk down the steps. He would stop every so often to see if I was following him, and when I saw which direction he was intent on traveling to, I did. By then I knew it was him and he wanted to go home.
John had left for work, but Dianne was at home sleeping. It took quite a bit of pounding on things to wake her up. Fuzzinator sat quietly while I did all the work and as soon as she came to the door and opened it he bolted into the house as if the hounds of Hell were after him.
She was absolutely shocked, had no idea he was gone, nor when he left. The only thing we can figure is he got out when John went to work. John just left here a few minutes ago after coming here to thank me for seeing to it that Fuzz got home safely this morning. He believes that Fuzz escaped when he went back into the house for something he forgot and left the doors open. He was in a hurry and never saw Fuzz outside. He and Fuzz take walks every day. Apparently Fuzz thought it was walk time. This seems to be the only explanation for the escape since Fuzzinator may be a Manx of many talents, but he can't walk through walls.
We've become a society that no longer holds anyone responsible for their actions. We can see the evidence online. I'm anonymous so I can say anything to you I choose, start as much trouble as I want to and because I'm anonymous, you can't touch me. Nothing will happen to me because so many people will continue to support me that I will never feel the need to change my tactics.
I believe we really ought to be ashamed of ourselves. We've become so used to that attitude that we carry it into real life. We get mad at the boss and piss in the company coffee pot. Then we create videos of it and put it on TV. How sick do we become before someone says enough is enough?
We are all responsible for this behavior. This attitude that I don't have to do the very best I can do because no one will hold me accountable. So, now it has resulted in the loss, by a hospital morgue, of a still born body. That's sick, and we need to change our attitudes. Sooner or later they'll find out what happened to that poor deceased baby, and I don't want to think about what might have happened to it.
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Just because we;re anonymous doesn't give people the right to victimise others, and I see way too much of that in Blogstream.