So, you've achieved the dream of gutting entitlement programs, and the reality of your life is that Mom or Dad don't have as much to live on because you didn't think about what would happen. What now?
They obviously can't live in an apartment since they can't pay rent, utilities, medical bills and eat with what your Conservative agenda left them. I suppose it's not your fault that you didn't know HUD was paying part of Mom's rent so she didn't have to live in a roach infested hovel. I suppose it's also not your fault that you didn't know she was also getting food stamps to assist with the grocery bill. Of course, now that Medicaid no longer exists, Mom's Depends are also a bit difficult to pay for so she's not changing as often as she should.
I see how you didn't realize she was getting so frail that getting in and out of the shower by herself was a thing of the past. Can't quite get her legs up over the tub these days, and since you only ran in long enough to drop things off or pick her up to take her to an appointment you didn't notice that she wasn't as clean as she should be. She was trying her best, but some parts of her body she just can't reach anymore.
Without Medicaid there is no aide coming every week to take care of these things and see to it that her apartment (the one she can no longer pay for) was kept up enough to pass inspection. Unfortunately the aide has been gone long enough for her to have failed inspection twice in a row which means she's facing eviction. The company who provided this aide contacted you to find out if you would be willing to pay to have her still come, but you said it wasn't necessary, you'd help her out. Unfortunately, you just didn't seem to find the time, nor did you realize how much time it actually took.
When you were there, the neighbors were treated to your scream fests. I'm sure you don't remember yelling at her that you didn't want to "waste your time" doing simple tasks that you were sure she could do herself. After all, you don't really understand how muscles become atrophied simply because someone is older. She'd just gotten lazy in her old age. Never mind that moving was painful to her arthritic joints. As far as you're concerned she has too much time on her hands because all she does with it is call and bug you every day. You can't take all this stress. Only, things are about to get worse.
Her doctor said at her last appointment that she shouldn't be living alone. You checked into assisted living and discovered that it costs around $3000 a month. Mom's social security check is only $1200 which leaves $1800 a month unpaid. It used to be that Medicaid paid the balance, but you fought long and hard to get rid of that "entitlement" program. Which means Mom can't move there or a nursing home unless family agrees to pay the balance.
Mom sold your childhood home to you for pennies on the dollar of value. You haven't been living there, you are using it for extra income. You're getting $1800 a month for rent on it, but that's what paid for your trip to Europe last year and a few of the luxuries you enjoy. The only alternative is to have Mom move in with you and that's when the fun starts.
It's YOU that now has to change her bed linens everyday and see to it that she gets in and out of the shower. And the chair your Mom likes to sit in has developed a few smelly issues because of the accidents she's had when there's been no one around to clean up after her. Her bedroom and now the livingroom have developed a lingering odor of urine and feces because of it. Which is the first thing you smell when you come home from a hard day at work.
You and your Hubby used to have some fine dinner parties and BBQ's for friends and neighbors, only they're a thing of the past because you don't really want them smelling the evidence of old age and Mom can do some fairly embarrassing things that you'd rather not have people see. Like the time she got diarrhea and wasn't aware of it? Got all over her hands and she sat there eating candy with...well...shitty hands. Now there's an event that you would have loved to live without.
For all the reasons I've mentioned your kids are ashamed to have their friends over and the stress of their moods is driving you crazy. They're teenagers, rampant running hormones tend to create excessive emotions in them. Which, of course, you are being treated to since you were the bad guy and brought grandma home to live with you.
This is the reality that Conservatives seem to either ignore or not factor into their desire to keep their money in their own pockets rather than pay for the programs that take care of these things for them. I'm thinking that quite possibly they should be careful what they ask for since they just might get it.