Sunday, August 3, 2008

Invisible Walls

Last night I took a Blogthing personality test that said I was an Idealist. It described me as having compassion, too much compassion. Maybe that compassion is why I have to say something when I see someone being injured by another blogger. It hurts me to see the people I don't like hurting those I do and getting away with it. I have been told to "not take it seriously". It's the internet. It's full of fakes. I suppose that's true to some extent, but what about the people behind the screen that aren't fake? Do they have to become fake to get along? It saddens me when I think about that.

I've spent my entire life standing up for what I believe in, and trying to make changes that I think would be better for all of us. In real life, my family and friends are the most important thing to me, I want to see a better world for their sake. I don't wish to see them inherit a world where lies are rewarded. Where cheating gets you ahead, and that is what I see people doing when they're online. They create drama for their own reasons, maybe to draw attention to themselves. I don't really know because I don't know these people that I am typing to on a daily basis.

I find it frustrating to try and tell people that they too have to stand up for what they believe in all the time, and they refuse to listen. They call my posts "blast posts" or "come to Jesus posts" and tell me that I am helping to create the drama. Maybe they're right. Maybe by standing up for blog friends when someone chooses to slam them is creating drama. Maybe I should just ignore them and they won't have anyone to fight with. If they have no one to fight with then maybe they'll fade away.

I see too many fights started by bloggers speaking to each other in someone elses posts. I suppose if the blog author chooses to allow it then I guess it's their business. On the other hand I believe that it's disrespectful to the blog author. I believe that there should be a limit to what bloggers say to each other when they are in someone elses comment page. I've decided to apply that ethical behavior to myself only and let others decide how they want to behave, with no opinion from me.

I think we get into trouble when we put ourselves out there too far. What is a joke to one person apparently is a snide remark to another. Another thing I know is that some people get annoyed when comments left in their pages have nothing to do with the post at hand. I know Lucy was accused of that behavior and it had a lot to do with the way some people treated her. It gave people the idea that she was all about her and what SHE wanted. Many arguments got started because of the frustration of feeling they weren't being listened to or truly acknowledged and that's what I think is happening there now.

People blog for different reasons and sometimes it isn't all about the fun for them. Sometimes it is a bid for sympathy, or kindness from someone. Maybe they aren't getting any emotional support in real life. Sometimes it's all about putting one over on people and when that type gets called out, they come out fighting and can't let it go. We don't run into that many of that type, it's just that they fight the longest and loudest and don't know how to really let things go.

Blog friends aren't real friends all the time. Some of them are attached to you just waiting for an opportunity to show the world who you really are. Mistakes are things that aren't forgiven in some peoples blog world. It's only been recently that has been happening and largely because of one person's inability to truly let it go. I think that's all we can do in the blog world. Delete, block, ignore and let it go. It can only harm you if you invite it in. Sometimes we really do need to build walls, even when we're online. I can stand up for what I believe in behind my wall. I don't have to do anything except shut off my computer and ignore the troublemakers. Lifes too short to do otherwise.


  1. Sherry, this is a great post. I totally know where you are coming from and certainly could not have expressed it any better. I think sometimes we all get caught up in the blog dramas when we should just live and let live, and turn off the computer perhaps. Now there's a plan.

  2. just dropping in to say howdy! my boyfriend and I got on the subject of snakes tonight and the fact that they had two penises? Did you ever hear of such a thing? OhMyWord!!!! LOL